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[Feel Korea 08] Why Koreans Live in Apartments, and Everyone Knows the Names

I have a soft spot for the horizon. In Korea, it's rare to see land stretching flat all the way to the edge of the sky. Look up and there's a mountain. In the city, there's an apartment block in front of the mountain. So when I see an endless plain abroad, I find myself staring at it a little too long. And this is the country where people started pouring into the cities. The Most Practical Way to Fit Everyone In Most of Korea is mountains, so there was never much flat land to build outward on. Starting with the first apartment complexes of the 1960s, Korean cities grew up instead of out. A French geographer once called Korea an "apartment republic," and this is the landscape behind that phrase. Apartments weren't loved from the start. Cities were growing at breakneck speed, and apartments were the answer to fitting that many people in. Then people lived in them and found them surprisingly convenient. Not One Home, but a Small Village Walk into ...

[Feel Korea 07] Why Are Koreans So Obsessed with Convenience?

February 23, 2020. Chilgok Kyungpook National University Hospital, Daegu. The person getting tested never left their car. They rolled down the window, answered a few health questions, had their temperature checked, gave a swab sample — then drove off. It was the world's first nationally implemented drive-through testing center. A few weeks later, the idea traveled to the other side of the planet. That spring, Target and Walgreens parking lots across the US started setting up testing sites that worked the exact same way. Researchers later noted it in academic papers: methods developed in Korea, they wrote, had been adapted by other countries that followed. Turning a fast-food format into a way to screen for a deadly virus. It's still a pretty clever idea, even in hindsight. No one had to funnel into a building full of people who might be sick. A car became its own little isolation chamber. Testing got faster, too. Watching that idea spread, I couldn't help but think —...

[Feel Korea 06] Why Do Koreans Sing When They Get Together?

Every so often, a video like this shows up on my YouTube feed. "Foreign singer moved to tears by Korean fans singing every word." The artist stops mid-song and just looks out at the crowd. Thousands of people pick up the next line without missing a beat, like they'd been waiting for the cue. The singer looks stunned, laughs, sometimes tears up. I'll admit I feel a little proud watching those clips. But also, honestly, a little confused. Is it really that moving? American crowds sing along plenty. So do European ones. Some South American crowds honestly put Korean ones to shame in sheer volume. So is the Korean sing-along actually special? The more I thought about it, the less it seemed to be about volume at all. At Korean concerts, people don't just sing — they jump, they've memorized entire chant routines for specific songs. It often feels less like watching a show and more like everyone showed up ready to be the show. Why did it end up this...

[Feel Korea 05] Is "Ppalli-Ppalli" Really Just a Personality Trait?

  I was watching TV a while back, and a clip came on of some Korean celebrities traveling abroad. They were waiting for a train at a station, and the train just... didn't come. Long after it was supposed to arrive, still nothing. Unfamiliar country, unfamiliar station — the cast members kept glancing at each other, visibly flustered. Am I standing in the wrong spot? Did I read the time wrong? Turns out, in that country, trains running late was just a normal thing. The locals around them stood there completely unbothered. Watching it, I honestly couldn't wrap my head around it. If there's a scheduled time, isn't sticking to it just... the baseline? Yeah. I'm Korean, alright. Two Perspectives, Talking Past Each Other One of the things that seems to shock foreigners most about Korea is this exact thing: speed. In parts of Europe, sending in your phone for repair can mean waiting weeks. In Korea, it's done in 30 minutes. At restaurants, side dishes show up bef...

[Feel Korea 04] Why Do Business Deals in Korea Start With a Meal, Not a Handshake?

  Inside the meeting room, the numbers just won't line up. Both sides are digging in. By the third time the same sentence gets repeated, someone lets out a sigh and says it. "Let's eat first, then we'll talk." If you're the foreign partner in the room, this is the moment your eyebrows go up. Wait — are we stopping the meeting because we're hungry? The negotiation is stuck, everyone's on edge, and someone just suggested lunch. In the last piece, we looked at "Did you eat?" as a greeting, and "let's grab a meal sometime" as the phrase Koreans use to leave a door open when they part ways. But it turns out meals play an even bigger role once you step into a Korean business setting. The role just changes shape depending on where you are in the relationship. There's a meal that starts things off, a meal that keeps the door ajar, and — as in that tense meeting room above — a meal that talks a deal back from the edge. "Sha...

[Feel Korea 03] Why Do Koreans Ask “Have You Eaten?” Instead of “Hello”?

Growing up, the moment I took off my shoes at the door, my grandmother's words were already waiting for me. "Have you eaten yet? Go eat something." She asked every single time she saw me — even right after I'd told her I just had. As a kid, I hated hearing it. Does she really think I can't feed myself? Such needless worrying, I used to think, more than a little sulky about it. But somewhere along the way, I noticed I'd started saying it myself, several times a day — to a coworker on my way into the office, to a friend after lunch, to my parents on the phone in the evening. So why do we even ask this in the first place? I got curious enough to actually look into it. Not a Greeting. A Way of Checking In. Here's the short answer: "Did you eat?" was never meant as a greeting. Digging into it, I found that my grandmother's constant asking carried a heavier story than I'd realized. Korea was an agricultural society for most of its histo...

[Feel Korea 02] What Is Jeong? The Korean Bond That Survives Dislike

These days, when you stop liking someone, the solution is usually simple. You cut them off. You block them. You never see them again. If your feelings are gone, ending the relationship feels like the obvious, rational move — no wonder "the courage to be disliked" has become such a popular idea. I get it. Honestly, I agree with that logic most of the time. But spend enough time in Korean society, and you start noticing strange scenes. Someone who was grumbling "ugh, I can't stand the sight of him" just yesterday shows up the next morning with a coffee for that exact person. They clearly seem to dislike each other, and yet the moment things get hard, they're the first ones to show up for each other. People who were fighting an hour ago end up sharing dinner and soju by the end of the week. What is going on here? Koreans gave this feeling a name a long time ago. Jeong (정). The Word That Doesn't Translate People have tried translating jeong into Engl...

[Feel Korea 01] Why Do Koreans Say “Our Mom” Instead of “My Mom”?

"Some words never fully reveal themselves in a dictionary. You only understand them once you understand the people who use them." That's exactly what "uri" (우리) is like. Have you ever been talking with a Korean friend and heard something like this: "Oh wait, hold on — our mom is calling." If you've studied any Korean, you already know that uri technically means "our." So taken literally, the sentence becomes "Our mom is calling." Most people pause right there. Subtitles and translation apps quietly smooth this over into "my mom" every time — but what you actually heard, in the room, was uri. It's my mom. So why "our"? The translation isn't wrong. If anything, this one small word turns out to be a surprisingly useful key to understanding Korea. "It's a Collectivist Culture" Isn't Quite the Full Answer There's a standard explanation that always comes up. "Korea is a collectivi...